R is for Regrets

I’m not a big fan of regrets.  I always say that I’d rather regret the things I do than the things I don’t, but up until a few years ago, they really were just words.

I had to do an internship for school.  It was unpaid, for a year, and I wanted to work with the seriously mentally ill population, basically the people I work with now.  Through a series of unfortunate events, I ended up doing my internship in Hospice.  A blog post is not nearly enough room to convey to you the depths of my disappointment, but I went into it with a positive attitude and hoped that I would learn something useful.

It was one of the hardest and easiest things I’ve ever done.  It was also one of the best learning experiences I’ve ever had.  I think I got more out of that year than I did out of my entire Master’s program.

I worked with both the terminally ill and their families. I also did grief counseling with people after their loved ones died.  One of the most important things I learned was that many people have regrets when they know they’re dying.  They don’t regret the things they did, but the things they didn’t, the things they put off because they thought they’d have more time.  They regretted not taking that trip, not getting out of that bad relationship, not spending more time with the kids, not taking that class or getting that degree.

People didn’t regret their bad eating habits or smoking too much, at least not to the same degree they regretted things they’d wanted to do but hadn’t.  I worked with women who didn’t know what they liked to eat because they had always cooked for their husbands, and one woman who ate ice cream every day.

There are a lot of things in life to complain about.  I know my favorite one is that there’s not enough time for everything.  I could turn that around though… maybe instead of lamenting that I don’t have enough time, maybe I should be glad that I have such a full life.  I’m never bored or lonely.  I don’t want to be 80 years old, look back at my life, and say, “Gee, I wish I had…”  I want to look back and say, “Gosh, the years flew by!”

The other day, I did a list of things that I like starting with the letter of the day.  I liked doing the list so much, I’m going to do it again!

1.  Rollerskating

2.  Rainbows  If you look closely, you can see that there's a double rainbow!

3.  Retro stuff- music, memorabilia, clothing

4.  Reading- duh

5.  Riting- That doesn’t start with an R?

6.  Rummy- My grandma taught me how to play it, and we often played for hours.  I have fond, fond memories of that.

7.  Rain! – I love everything about rain.  Except the getting wet part.  I don’t like that.

8.  Raisin bread- with butter and cinnamon sugar… mmm…

9.  Recycling- Reduce, reuse, recycle!  I love repurposing junk!  I even made paper once.  https://doreeweller.wordpress.com/2011/06/02/making-paper/

10.  Ripley!


3 comments on “R is for Regrets

  1. Hello, Doree! This is a wonderful post. You’re right that regrets are pointless. What’s done is done and can’t undone. We must move on and live in the moment!

    Have a great week and happy A to Z!!

  2. […] know how he felt about it, but it looks like he had nothing to regret.  I wrote about regrets here a few weeks ago and thought that I had nothing to regret.  Now that I’m re-evaluating, I […]

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