Facebook is a wonderful place to study human nature. If I asked most of my friends, they’d say they “hate drama,” yet in reading their posts on Facebook, I have to wonder about that statement. Most of the people who are most vocal about hating drama seem to be the biggest causes of it, posting passive aggressive things obviously meant to reach someone else.
Last night I posted a really awesome article about a man with no legs who climbed Mt. Kilimanjaro. I meant to share what I thought was an inspirational story, and I commented, “There is no such thing as can’t. Really.” One of my friends responded that he “can’t” find someone to love him.
My first reaction to that was really negative, and I thought that the person was probably attention seeking, negative, and missing the point of the story. Once I thought about it a little bit more, I realized that even though I didn’t post any kind of response, I was feeding into the negativity with my own reaction. So what if he was seeking attention with that comment? If people are looking for attention, it’s generally for a reason, and if I really consider him my friend, I should give him some attention without feeding the negativity. I really believe that old adage, “If you’re not part of the solution, you’re part of the problem.”
I’m not going to climb Mt. Kilimanjaro on my hands. Could I? Maybe. Will I? Hell no. Let’s face it, exercise is a dirty word to me. But, even though I’ll never inspire others that way, it’s my job to be what’s important to me. For me, the important stuff is being positive, supporting others, and being a good example. So, I’m going to have to re-evaluate my presence on Facebook. Even though I don’t feed into all that passive aggressive nonsense, I sit back and laugh at it. Maybe my lack of response to it feeds the negativity in some way.
Anyone have any thoughts on that?