I had a rare Friday night off, and my husband and I went out to dinner. Because it was crowded in the restaurant, we opted to sit at the sushi bar at Ra. Jesus was our sushi chef, and he was very pleasant, talking to us throughout the meal and answering all our questions about rolls he was making for other people.
My husband and I didn’t talk about it, but we both tried a new thing… no phones at dinner. I managed to get through a meal without Words with Friends or email. My husband didn’t check the news. Now, I’m not gonna pretend that it went like our first date, where the waiter had to come back four or five times because we were too busy talking to figure out what to eat, but we found that we had plenty to talk about.
On my way to wash my hands, I looked around the restaurant. There was a group of people making noise and laughing. Know what I noticed? Not one person in that group was looking at or holding a cell phone. In another corner, a couple sat, looking bored. The glow of a cell phone showed from under the table.
I don’t know which came first, the lack of conversation or the cell phone, but I just know that something’s gotta give. Why go out to dinner with one another if you aren’t going to talk? If you just want to surf the internet, shouldn’t you just order in and eat at home?
Can you imagine reading that in a romance novel? Sexy Man gazed deeply into Gorgeous Woman’s eyes and smiled. “I’m so glad we’re finally getting to do this.”
“So am I,” she replied.
They placed their order, and silence fell for a moment. She gazed thoughtfully into the flickering candle flame on the table, then took out her cell phone and updated her status to reflect, “Gorgeous Woman just checked in with Sexy Man at Trendy Restaurant.” He grabbed his phone and scowled as he read the news.
I challenge you: next time you go for dinner, keep the cell phone off in a pocket or a purse. Even if at first, you have nothing to talk about, see what happens. A conversation just might grow out of the quiet.