Once upon a time, I was a pretty sore loser. I’m generally pretty good at games and I’m used to winning. There was a time when, if I lost, I got cranky about it and generally pouted. I finally realized how stupid I was being one day when I realized I couldn’t remember who had won last time we played.
Now, I’m not one of those people who believe winning doesn’t matter and that everyone should get a trophy just for showing up. Nope. When you do well, you win, and when you do poorly, you’ve lost. Kids need to learn the difference between winning and losing. They need to learn to be good sports when they lose, and if they don’t like it, they can practice more!
Winning both matters and doesn’t matter. The fact is that we can’t all be winners every time. We need to know what we’re good at, and what we aren’t. And if we enjoy something we suck at, that’s okay, but we shouldn’t get trophies just for showing up. I can’t sing. It’s a well-known fact. If I ever went on American Idol, I can guarantee I’d be booed off. And I should be. Why? Because I can’t sing! I can, however, remember jingles and song lyrics for everything I’ve ever heard. I like singing. Alone, in my car.
Last night, we played this great game, bezzerwizzer. It’s a trivia and strategy game. My brother in law, who is very competitive with me, switched my tiles so I got a geography tile. I tried to answer geography questions for maybe 10 turns. I lost the game, but we all laughed at my inability to remember any kind of world geography. We also played Shrek Super Party, and during that game, he sabotaged me whenever I was involved in a duel against someone else.
For a brief moment, I thought about getting upset with the sabotage and the fact that I was losing. Badly. Then I checked myself and remembered… It’s just a game. We’re all laughing and having fun. So I relaxed and went with it. Later, I got my revenge during Life. Game Karma bit my brother in law in the you-know-what. He couldn’t land on any positive space and ended the game with $1000. And you know what? I laughed just as hard at him as I did at myself. Who needs a trophy?