H is for Help

They always say that doctors make the worst patients, and I very much believe that.

imageAs a professional helper, I’ve noticed that it’s harder to accept help from others than it is to give it.  I spend my day problem solving for others, and I’m very good at it.  That means I should be able to solve my own problems, right?

It sounds good to say that.  I sometimes tell people that being able to accept the help of others is a strength, and I believe that.  So why is it so difficult to as for help when I’m the one who needs it?

as I’ve said many times before, I don’t pretend to have answers, just good questions.

One of the most important things I know about helping others is that I np can’t properly help others unless I’m healthy… Mentally, physically, spiritually. Many people seem to believe that “selfish” and “self-care” are synonymous… They’re not!

Selfish is acting without care or concern for how it affects others. Self-care is taking care of oneself. Self-care is important because I can’t allow others to depend on me if I’m not healthy enough to care for them. If I don’t practice self-care every day, I can become irritable, overwhelmed, physically sick, tired, forgetful, and lose empathy for others.

Practicing self-care doesn’t have to take long. I just try to make sure I eat right, sleep somewhere in the neighborhood of enough, read, write, play with my dogs, and regularly review what’s going well in my life.

And every once in awhile, I try to ask for help if I need it.


3 comments on “H is for Help

  1. Love this. I also a big belieiver in the concept of self-care and that this is different from being selfish. I always use the root/tree analogy. The only way a tree can be healthy is if its root system is healthy. If others count on you, then you are the root. Half an hour a day is all that it takes to do something that feeds your soul. Happy A to Zing.

  2. Liz Brownlee says:

    Totally agree with this – and taking care of yourself means you will be less of a ‘burden’ on society at whatever stage you are at! It appals me how many people don’t seem to know how to do even basic health maintenance like eat enough veg (green in particular), fruit and protein, drink enough liquid, and take a little time to laugh!

    Good luck in the A-Z – I’m doing animal poems… and facts… er, and often a drawing, I like to make things hard for myself.

    Liz http://www.lizbrownleepoet.com

  3. Joe Owens says:

    SOmetimes the ones who help just cannot let other return the favor. It is not bad, just a part of the way you are made.

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