A to Z Challenge 2017!

staytuned500x500April is coming, and with it, the Blogging A to Z Challenge. For one month, minus Sundays, participants blog daily and follow the 26 letters of the alphabet. It’s fun, and all types of bloggers are encouraged to participate.

I started doing the A to Z Challenge back in 2012, and for the first three years, I didn’t do any particular topic… I just wrote about whatever came to mind.

In 2015, I did, “Things I Love,” and last year’s theme was “Books That Influenced Me.” (On a related note, I’m sorry that I don’t have an easy way to access archives, but if you want to look back at any of my posts, you can type “A is for” into the search bar. All my A to Z blogs start with the letter of the day.)

This challenge is a great way to “meet” other bloggers and find other interesting blogs.

On March 20, I’ll be revealing my theme (and hopefully will know what it is and have most of my posts written by then). The theme was much easier for me, and stopped some of the panicked searching for a topic that I did in other years.

Will you be joining?

You Can’t Please Everyone…

I know that you can’t please everyone, but I think that from time to time, it’s good to get a reminder of this.

I recently read an article in which a public school in Rhode Island was banned from having Daddy-daughter dances and Mother-son ballgames because of gender discrimination.  The ACLU filed a suit on behalf of a single mom whose daughter couldn’t go to the dance.

No matter what happened here, someone was going to be unhappy.  Those on the side of these dances and ballgames support them based on tradition and bonding with your child.  Those against these events cite gender discrimination, supporting stereotypes, and exclusionary behavior.  I see both sides; I do.  However, I don’t believe that everything has to be “fair.”  From what I’ve seen (and I have a lot more to see, hopefully), life isn’t fair.  Things don’t fall into easy categories.  Someone is going to be excluded sometime, whether it be by policy, individuals, or accident.  Someone will be excluded.  We can’t legislate fair.  We can try, but I disagree with any type of black and white thinking.  I don’t think that these dances/ ballgames were either good or bad.  If someone was unhappy with them, perhaps they could have tried to come up with a more flexible solution.

It’s easy to Monday morning quarterback something like this and criticize the decisions made by others.  I wasn’t there and don’t know the whole story, so I hesitate to say, “well maybe this” or “maybe that.”  What I can say is that I think that as a society, many of us have forgotten that “fair” does not mean “equal.”  “Fair” means “free from dishonesty, bias, or injustice.”

So, I guess the question comes down to whether or not we should acknowledge gender differences.  They exist.  I know that I talk about different things with my female friends as opposed to my male friends.  Toddler girls and toddler boys interact with toys differently.  Should gender be homogenized?  Should we all just be the same?  Or is it okay to have differences?  I realize that I’m oversimplifying what this issue is really about.  The issue isn’t about differences per se.  The issue is that one mom felt it wasn’t fair that her daughter couldn’t go to the dance without a daddy.

Honestly, when I hear about stuff like this, I’m a little disturbed that everyone has to miss out on something they were probably looking forward to because one person couldn’t go.  Isn’t that a perfect illustration of our “me first” society?  If I can’t do it, neither should you!  I think you can probably tell which side of the issue I come in on.  It’s a live and let live thing.  I can’t walk across a stable surface without tripping over my feet.  Does that mean that other people shouldn’t be allowed to play sports?  I can’t stand up to use the bathroom.  Does my jealousy mean boys should be legislated to sit down?

What do you think?  Tell me in comments.