Do Happy Endings Exist?

 

IMG_1486For the most part, I prefer books with happy endings. I’m not opposed to a sad ending, but it has to be the right one.

I recently had a friend say to me that they prefer “hopeful” endings, and that makes a lot of sense. What’s the point if we don’t have hope?

A while ago, I read A Little Life, by Hanya Yanagihara. It is an amazing book, but it’s also horrifically sad. That’s not to say that it’s unrelentingly sad, but the ending is not a happy one.

It got me to thinking that where authors end the book makes the difference between a happy, hopeful ending, or a sad one.

A Little Life ebbs and flows with happiness and hope, where it seems like Jude will finally get the life he wanted, and devestatingly sad parts, the kind of sticky sad that stays with you and makes you question your own life.

If Yanagihara had ended the book during one of those upbeat, hopeful moments, it would be an entirely different book with a whole different meaning.

Books only tell the story of a slice of time. They don’t tell you what happens after, if the character suffered a tragedy. Romance novels often end with a marriage or proposal, but they don’t tell you if someone got cancer after they were married for a few years or if someone had an affair with an ex. Mystery novels end with the detective finding the criminal, but they don’t talk about the detective descending into alcoholism  or having a car accident which causes them never-ending back pain.

My point is that anything can happen when a story continues, and it won’t exclusively be happy or sad. Life is about the whole spectrum of emotional experience. My life is just a series of stories I tell myself (and others). Sometimes I don’t get to pick what happens in the story because sometimes life happens to me, but I get to pick the frame.

For example, I was recently supposed to go to a Taylor Swift concert in Arizona (I live in Texas). I didn’t get to go because I had a sick 17-year-old cat, and I was worried what would happen if I left. So I stayed, and my friends went to the concert without me. I looked at their pictures on Facebook and imagined what a great time I would have had with them. 😥

If the story ends there, it’s kind of a downer, right? But what if the end of the story has the sick cat making a full recovery? And knowing that my elderly cat is healthy today because I missed a concert? And that my husband agreed to go see Taylor Swift with me when she comes to Texas? Does it change the story?

I think it does. I like happy endings in fiction; I prefer them in real life too. Life has its ups and downs, just like fiction does. And just like in fiction, I can usually choose where to end that particular short story.

Related post: 10 Reasons I Love Happy Endings

Feel Good Fridays

Ready for your dose of feel good?  Here’s this Friday’s feel good.  Anybody else participating?

Teen from Mesa AZ makes her prom dress into a work of art.

Why Ghostbusters still matters.

A celebrity who isn’t obnoxious and entitled?

Good Samaritan saves dog.

How traveling can change lives.

Have an awesome weekend, everyone!

“Folks are usually about as happy as they make their minds up to be.”
― Abraham Lincoln

Feel Good Friday

On Fridays, I post positive news stories.  I’m tired of seeing the depressing and darks, so I decided to be an agent of change.

I’m also proposing that those of you who read my blog take a moment on Fridays to give a positive shout out, in the same way people do Throwback Thursday.  Take a moment to post something positive on someone else’s wall, share positive news, or share a happy memory.

So, here’s some of this week’s news:

$225 million is being devoted to protecting the Amazon rainforest for the next 25 years!

A boy with autism confronts his bullies and makes new friends.

Staff and students raise money so a high school janitor can see his son.

Man follows through on promise he made his father when he was 8.

We all know bad things happen in the world, but why focus on them?  There are so many good people in this world.  I believe in putting my energy into what I want, not what I don’t.  So go out and share the good news today.

“Any fact facing us is not as important as our attitude toward it, for that determines our success or failure.” -Norman Vincent Peale