I’m the person who talks out loud during movies (not in the movie theater… just at home. A lot). I’m also the person who talks to Facebook, and all my friends, even when they can’t hear me. Maybe especially when they can’t hear me.
I saw this on a friend’s Facebook page the other day:
I wanted to yell, “No! No! NO! What do you mean that’s your WORST fear? Please, stop.”
But I didn’t. I didn’t even respond to it, because I know a lot of people feel that way. They become afraid of showing their imperfections because someone might not love them if they show those imperfections. Then, what happens is we all end up being the walking wounded. We imagine that others are somehow better at life than we are.
I have to tell you a secret. Ready?
None of us are perfect.
And you know what?
Yes, she’s judging you. Orange cats do that.
Photo Credit: Doree Weller
Imperfections are what make us wonderful. They’re what make us unique and interesting. If you were perfect, how would you ever strive to be better? And if you had nothing to strive for, what would be the point of doing anything? If you were just perfect all the time, there would be no goals. You wouldn’t need any emotions because you could be happy all the time. Where would love songs come from? Or those songs that make your soul ache? Or pretty much anything by The Cure? Where would creativity come from?
Maybe I’m missing the point. It’s just that I think perfect is overrated. I also happen to think it’s impossible, but I’m not one to let reality get in the way of my goals, so I certainly won’t shoot yours down by calling “reality check.”
It’s easy to believe that others are somehow doing a better job at life than I am. It’s easy to go on Facebook or Pinterest or watch TV or look at magazines and figure that others have it all together. Or at least more together. But when I worked in crisis, I went into people’s homes, and the one thing I found out is that no matter how together people look, we all have secrets. And most people believe they’re failing at something.
So, instead of holding yourself to someone else’s standard, how about you work on being the best you that you can be today? In order to be the best you, you have to stop comparing yourself to others. You’re just you. I’m just me.
And that’s perfectly okay.